Divorce is often unpleasant, but from time to time, the details of a dislocation especially take ahold of the soul and let go. One such case involves Alaina Giordano, a mother of two who is struggling against stage 4 breast cancer. April 25 Giordano lost custody of her children, when a judge ruled that they must leave their Durham, N.C., living with their father to Chicago by June 17, because, essentially, the judge said, a healthy dad is preferable to a sick mother.
Giordano was surprised. It was expecting an open-and-shut case. Quickly, an elementary school friend jumped into action, gifles a Facebook page that he hoped would spread the word and help the Giordano to attract a pro bono lawyer who could challenge the decision of the judge Nancy Gordon. It seeks an altruistic Attorney being Giordano does earn income - she is a mother in the home (SAHM, natch), the most severe jobs - a fact which has been used against him at the battle of custody, triggering a wave of support from fellow SAHMers.
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Concerned about health Giordano was also a primary problem in the custody battle. Cancer was diagnosed in 2007, approximately six months before she moved with her family to Durham so that her husband, Kane Snyder, could studying for his MBA at Duke University. The cancer has metastasized to his bones, which is not really a good thing. But his regimen is now the disease at Bay; She said that it will not propagate actively. And is anyone guess how long she will live.
In the meantime, she said that she was able to parent and, if his recent media schedule is a gauge, compete with the endurance a triathlete. On Wednesday, Giordano was in New York for an advertising blitz. She woke at 5 a.m. to arrive at the issuance of today with her children, aged 11 years Sofia and Bud of 5 years. She did her interview. his children met with Matt Lauer. Subsequently, it has eliminated another interviews shortly, including the Gayle King Show and CNN, where they were going to Michele Obama brother and Anderson Cooper.
Then, there was breakfast with dinner with the children at the Hard Rock Cafe and the cousin of Giordano (haunted Jekyll and Hyde Club having proved too spooky for Bud). They gallivanted through Central Park and ended the day of the hearing of "The Addams Family", a musical comedy. "I am fully functional," said Giordano.
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While waiting with his children for his flight back in North Carolina, Giordano talks with Healthland fighting words - for his life, but especially for its children. (Kane Snyder was also asked to comment for this post, but it does not return emails or phone calls).
Healthland: How do your children know about what is happening?
Giordano: They know there is a judgment of the Court and I had to tell them that the judge said that they have to move. I told them the night of the decision. I was still in shock, at the time there. I tried to be diverted. I said I wanted to stay with me, but the judge decided otherwise.
My daughter may be somewhat stoic, like me, but when it was just me and she, she began screaming, crying. She is not out of bed, did not want to leave the apartment. My son was very anxious. It won't let me out of his sight. He sleeps with me. They know that, when someone forces you to do something, this is not love.
HealthLand: What kind of relationship have your children with their father?
Giordano: He is their father, and I do my best to be honest with them but also be jealous of their relationship with him. They like their Daddy. When my son said: "Daddy hates you and you hate Daddy", I say, "I do not hate your father, but I'm not happy with his behaviour."
HealthLand: Is it visit frequently?
Giordano: I can't really say how often. He came to visit for a night in February, a night in March, and the judge ordered [the children] go there for the week of spring break, so that they did. Approximately eight weeks in the fall when he did not come to see.
HealthLand: What did you do before the birth of your children?
Giordano: I worked as a paralegal in Philadelphia. [Snyder] was a boy. I took the LSAT, but when I had children I stayed home, and it was his first degree and finishing work. In August 2005, he became a consultant at PricewaterhouseCoopers, so he was far away. ... I went on excursion [School]. I was the mother of the room. My children came always first.
HealthLand: It seems that there must be something going on in addition to your illness to justify a decision to guard it. There are allegations of fraud and abuse. What happens there?
Giordano: I admitted my cheating. He admitted his. In North Carolina, there is a link you get alimony, therefore he has really gone after me on this. ... It has always been an abusive relationship. Nothing in the documentation. I was a witness to testify that she had seen him physically assault me from my son. The judge learned that, and then writing there was no domestic violence which were eligible under what law he was.
HealthLand: What are your next steps?
Giordano: I need a lawyer to file this appeal ASAP. I had to borrow money for an attorney so I'm looking for pro bono. Outlawyered [Snyder] me like crazy. He left with everything.
I'm trying to do steps to regret. I believe that everything happens for a reason. After I get my children or get to keep them, I would like to see legislation enacted to protect people who are sick of losing their children.
HealthLand: What's your prognosis?
Giordano: Unknown. This is what makes the evil judge comfortable. No one knows. People live for five years, 10 years, more time. I get so many emails, saying: "I have stage 4 cancer and I raised my children." Emails are a great upside.
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